Please save the date to attend the Cathedral Spring Soiree on Saturday, April 18. We will celebrate this season of renewal as a community with a family-friendly evening of soup, salad and song in the Undercroft.
Welcoming all people to worship joyfully, care deeply and act boldly as followers of Christ.
The Rev. Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D., from The Appreciative Way, will teach forgiveness exercises to help participants find personal forgiveness and healing.
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(Saturday) 11:30 am - 2:00 pm
Once again the Cathedral Youth will be selling parking spaces in the Cathedral Parking lot during Johns Hopkins home lacrosse games. Proceeds will go to [...]
Once again the Cathedral Youth will be selling parking spaces in the Cathedral Parking lot during Johns Hopkins home lacrosse games. Proceeds will go to next year’s pilgrimage. Please be aware that if you come to the Cathedral on any of the below listed dates the parking lot should be filled close to game time. Finding an “on street” spot prior to the game would be appreciated as it provides us another spot to sell.
(Saturday) 7:00 pm - 9:30 pm
Please save the date to attend the Cathedral Spring Soiree on Saturday, April 18. We will celebrate this season of renewal as a community with a family-friendly evening of soup, [...]
Please save the date to attend the Cathedral Spring Soiree on Saturday, April 18. We will celebrate this season of renewal as a community with a family-friendly evening of soup, salad and song in the Undercroft. The Spring Soiree will feature Cathedral-grown entertainment and music, a raffle of baskets for gardeners and music lovers alike, and an array of soup and salads. Donations for the themed baskets (books, garden tools/accessories, music, and self-care) are being sought by Chapter member Joan Wisner-Carlson. Joan may be reached at email@example.com or 443-416-0485. Tickets for individuals, families and tables for foyer groups will be available for purchase on the Cathedral Web site and before and after the 10:30 AM service beginning on Sunday, March 29.
(Saturday) 9:00 am - 12:00 pm
Grab your coffee, juice and something to eat, then learn about Rain Gardens as a way to reduce storm water runoff into streams and rivers. Landscape architect, Jean Mellott, will [...]
(Saturday) 9:30 am - 3:30 pm
Knowing we need to forgive without knowing how to forgive is radically unhelpful. Are you tired of living with resentment? Is there someone in your life you just can’t forgive? Do you want [...]
Knowing we need to forgive without knowing how to forgive is radically unhelpful.
- Are you tired of living with resentment?
- Is there someone in your life you just can’t forgive?
- Do you want to find a more resourceful way of dealing with bullies in your life?
- Do you need to find self-forgiveness?
- Do you want a more compassionate way of being in the world?
If you said yes to any of the above then this retreat day is designed for you! In this retreat you will learn how to forgive. One of the main reasons people don’t forgive is that they confuse forgiveness with reconciliation.
This one-day retreat is open to all and will take place on Saturday, April 25, 2015, 9:30am to 3:30pm at the Cathedral of the Incarnation. The Rev. Robert J. Voyle, Psy.D. from The Appreciative Way, will teach forgiveness exercises to help participants find personal forgiveness and healing. The cost is $75 per person and includes lunch.
Forgiveness is not Reconciliation!
One of the main reasons people don't forgive is that they confuse forgiveness with reconciliation.
Forgiveness: Is how you personally resolve what has happened in your past.
Basic Rule of Forgiveness: The primary beneficiary of your forgiveness is yourself. When others have hurt you in the past forgiveness means you get to put down the hurt and leave it behind, rather than carry it resentfully into your future.
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die. Nelson Mandela
Reconciliation: Is an agreement between two or more people on how they will live and work together in the future.
Basic Rule of Reconciliation: Never be reconciled to someone who does not share your values.
Jesus forgave the Romans and the Pharisees, but he was never reconciled to the mission of Rome or the mission of the Pharisees.
Forgiving and Forgetting is Very Unwise
Forgetting bad things is a real problem, because then we will have to repeat them to remember that they are painful. Sometimes we need to forgive and remember rather than forgive and forget that some people are dangerous and shouldn't be trusted because they haven't demonstrated trustworthy behavior.
For More Information on Forgiveness
Most of this retreat is based on Rob Voyle's book Restoring Hope: Appreciative Strategies to Resolve Resentment and Grief. You can purchase it from The Appreciative Way Bookstore. Rob has also written a brief description of the forgiveness process in his blog: Teach Them to Forgive this Sunday and 9/11: Resentment, Forgiveness, and Reconciliation. You can also listen to Rob teach on Resolving Painful Memories
Retreat Outline and Objectives
This retreat is provided in a one-day format and is designed to lead you through a series of processes to enable you to forgive others and yourself.
- Create basic internal resources such as the golden thread of life and unconditional love to create a stable foundation for forgiving others:
- Use the three faces of compassion: tenderness, fierceness, and mischievousness as an agent of transformation in the world.
- Discover how you uniquely organize and structure your internal experience of memories of past injuries, resentments, and states of forgiveness:
- Resolve your internal objections and resistance to forgiving; - seeking and satisfying your objections to forgiving to ensure sustainable outcomes:
- Restructure your internal experiences of resentment into internal experiences of forgiveness:
- Create internal resources to enable you to remain grounded and engaged, rather than resentful or avoidant, in the presence of people who violate your values:
- Discover the differences between guilt and shame and how to use the forgiveness strategies to achieve self-forgiveness:
(Sunday) 3:00 pm - 5:00 pm
Join Blue Water Baltimore and Interfaith Partners for the Chesapeake at the free Walk the Talk forum on Sunday, April 26 to learn how faith communities in Baltimore have worked to [...]
(Sunday) 5:00 pm - 6:00 pm
The Cathedral will offer a Communion Service for Recovering People in the Cathedral Nave. April is Alcohol Awareness month so the Cathedral, in cooperation with others in the Diocese, and Recovery [...]